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Copyright © 1997 by Carol Heideman
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Twelve Star Publishing, P.O. Box 123, Jefferson, MD 21755
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Copyright © 1997 by Carol Heideman
All rights reserved. Inquiries should be addressed to
Twelve Star Publishing, P.O. Box 123, Jefferson, MD 21755
Carol Heideman has channeled the entity Michael since 1987.
Her column conveys a practical and timely message from Michael.
Our exploration of negative energy continues. In the
last issue, we described the attributes of the shadow side. Now
let's delve into practical application of negative energy in your
daily activities. Once you realize the true nature of negative
energy, you can take action to minimize the pain and fear in your
life. Our goal is to explain this puzzler of a concept: Negative
is beneficial. That is to say, negative is actually positive!
The emptiness of darkness calls forth light energy. Horrifying
evil and natural catastrophe draw forth heroism and courage. Illness
creates healers, and thirsty minds create teachers. All these
examples demonstrate the immense power of dark energy, a power
that fuels movement and change. The point where dark meets light
is where you find life's most intense growth experiences. Consider
the calmness out at sea compared to ocean waves striking the shore.
The power of the water's movement is more obvious at the edge
of the ocean. In the same way, notice where your inner "waves"
are striking - here is your best zone for gaining insight, joyfully
done by surfing those waves.
Tired of something negative? Get the message and get on
with things! Improve your speed in hearing the message and you'll
reduce the amount of time you spend feeling negative. We recommend
journal writing as an easy and pleasant way to get the messages
from your dark side. Write, write, write. Then read it later for
it's inherent messages. Look for patterns of negative thinking.
Talking with a friend or relative can also help, but for
real clarity, the listener must know how to mirror back your negatives
without adding in his own! Your negative energy will most frequently
reveal itself in layers like an onion. Getting to the center can
take some time and effort, but once you've revealed the core,
the negative emotion dissipates rapidly.
Tip: The core is always fear, often covered by rage or
depression.
Once you find the source of disharmony, seek a response
filled with love and light. Please understand that an insightful
and truly loving response may be tougher to make than a selfish
one. Choosing loving action requires a deep understanding of motivation
blended with the ability to set appropriate and firm limits. And
don't forget a healthy dose of creativity and fun! Most importantly,
a clear goal is necessary - an image of the harmony you seek to
create with your loving actions. Sound complex? In action, it
need not be complicated. A clear, concise idea of the outcome
you desire serves as a beacon to guide you to a creative, loving
response.
Let's take parenting as an example. First, parents must
first define their parental goal. We suggest this one: The transformation
of infants into adults who are physically and emotionally strong,
able to make good choices, with all the skills for creating and
sustaining a happy life. There are many steps and stages to move
through while taking a baby to adulthood, but parents who check
each decision against this goal have a much more clear and obvious
path.
Children of all sizes express negative energy freely and
often, providing parents with ongoing opportunities to practice
at choosing loving responses. Some parents try to simply eliminate
the negative by giving children whatever they want as quickly
as possible. On the surface this may seem like a loving response,
but it ignores the children's true motivation.
What is the primary motivation behind children's negative
behaviors? Children search for limits to feel safe. With this
as motivation, children keep pushing and pushing until they discover
a boundary. In fact, children bulldoze harder and more often when
limits are inconsistent from one day to the next. Unclear boundaries
often lead to a war-zone atmosphere - the complete opposite of
what most parents are trying to create. The best way to minimize
the discord is to set clear, consistent limits with periodic adjustments
made as children mature. All children seek security, so providing
boundaries is a loving response that makes them feel protected.
Just like petulant children, all negatives in your life
respond to loving actions - irritating co-workers, obnoxious store
clerks, even a grumpy spouse. A tight, immediate focus will often
throw you off the true issue beneath the behavior, so don't forget
to evaluate each issue with a bigger, more long-term view. Negative
behaviors show where a loving response is needed.
The most difficult adjustment for many people is to
break out of a well-established pattern, but this is also the
most rewarding change you can make to your life! If you tend to
use anger, try humor. If you usually ignore something, try saying
something. If talking is ignored, try writing a letter. Powerful
transformation can come to you when you open your mind to new
possibilities - and once you break your own pattern, the way is
often cleared for other people to discover new avenues for themselves
as well. When you choose an unknown pathway, a sensation of adventure
and aliveness is awakened within you. You'll never feel more alive
than when exploring unknown territory.
You will discover that hopelessness cannot co-exist with
creativity.
Carol Heideman is the author of Searching
for Light: Michael's Information for a Time of Change.
ISBN 0-9643455-0-1, $12.95.
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